A Man Up Moment from Mr. Man to the Dads:
Which one of these women will your daughter grow up to be?
I have often said that there is #truth in good comedy. The really special comedians have the ability to make us laugh at our own imperfections. Think about George Carlin, Bill Cosby, and Richard Pryor. What about Eddie Murphy and Jerry Seinfeld? More recently we have seen the genius of Jeff Foxworthy, George Lopez, Bernie Mac, and Dave Chapelle. There is another comedian who has spoken a truth that I live by. This truth I think all fathers should recognize as real and burn it into that place where it will never be forgotten. This profundity comes from the brilliant Chris Rock. Read what Chris has to say in his stand-up performance, Never Scared:
Sometimes I am walking with my daughter, I’m talking to my daughter, I’m looking at her, I’m pushing her in the stroller. And sometimes I pick her up and I just stare at her and I realize my only job in life is to keep her off the pole.
Keep my baby off the pole!
I mean, they don’t grade fathers. But if your daughter is a stripper, you f*&$#@ up.
When I first heard this, it stuck with me like stink on an elephant’s badonkadonk. My daughter was a toddler at the time and I remember thinking to myself, Man, hes right! This is why I exist as a father. My relationship with my baby girl will certainly determine how she thinks of men, her self-esteem, and self-image. How I treat my wife will serve as the model of how she believes she should be treated in her relationships. The amount of time and attention that I give to her could potentially lead her to believe that she needs to seek that attention elsewhere from someone who does not come close to loving her the way that I do. That simply WILL NOT DO.
I made up my mind there and then that my angel would always know how special she is to me. I do not withhold affection from her, so there will not be a need for her to seek it elsewhere. I tell her I love her every day several times a day and show her that love as well. I spoil her to a point, because I do not want her to think that everything comes easy in life. I insist that she stands up for herself, defend herself if necessary. I show her the affection I feel for my wife so that she will have something to model. When she misbehaves, I correct her. When she is successful, I encourage her. She knows that she is as good as any boy and better than most in my eyes. My daughter is smart, funny, talented, and confident. She wants to be a doctor and she knows that by the grace of God and her own hard work, she can be.
Moms play a special and unique role in the development of little girls, but do not underestimate your impact, dads. You are an invaluable and irreplaceable chunk of your daughters life. Make sure you are the man she needs you to be.
The biggest compliment that I hope to hear one day is that my baby girl wants to marry a man just like daddy.
Dads and Moms-What are some things that you can do to show your daughter how special she truly is? Is there any way you believe you could do more?