“In a world where there is so much sadness and so much to be afraid of, good things do happen to people. Romance is still something we can find even if we’re not consciously looking for it. – Kathleen Quinlan
Nothing stays the same forever, whether good or bad, especially in relationships. There is no cruise control with your partner, so you constantly have to deal with the fast and exciting, as well as the slow roll as time adds to the longevity of your relationship.
Anything you want to last will need check ups or tune ups, polishing or even cleaning every so often. It’s no different in our relationships, and we need to continue to do the small, yet important, things to keep the romance alive and well.
What small things you ask? Glad you asked because I just happen to have a few I’m happy to share with you!
Nothing is perfect or foolproof, and to each his own when taking advice. It is best to tailor it the way your partner can respond. With that being said, here are my five tips for keeping up the romance in a relationship:
Honesty – You would think this to be a no-brainer, but when speaking of romance, many partners act out of what they think the other wants, which actually may be very out of character or uncomfortable. Being honest with yourself and your partner opens up great dialogue on all your comfort zones, as well as how far you may want to go out of that zone. Continued honest conversation in your relationship is a foundation for great success. Some would say that is romantic in itself.
Kissing – A peck on the lips after coming home from work or seeing each other after a long day can go a long way. It constantly reestablishes the relationship while continuing to increase that intimate bond. Better yet, skip the lips, and go for the ear or neck, and see how that turns out!
Have Separate Interests – Not that everything has to be different, but don’t lose your individuality in your relationship. Your separate interests give you potential for great conversation, as well as a way to support each other. Being able to share with your partner builds a wonderful foundation of love and romance.
Flirt – There is a saying I grew up with that is “Do what you did to get her if you want to keep her”. It is pretty self explanatory, so keep up the good work! Flirting is the in fundamental to know someone 101, it tickles the emotions and piques the interest to a would be suitor. As the relationship progresses, emotions and interests still need pampering, so don’t stop the flirting. Remember, a-flirt-a-day-keeps-an-argument-away!
Put in the Work – Look, anything worth having takes time and effort. You want a nice body? Work at it! You want a pay raise? Work at it! You want to keep romance in your relationship? Put in the work!