April 14, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 11:10 pm  Q: Dear Mr. Man: Note: This is the second in a two-part series on this mixed bag we call “Hip-Hop”. I’d like for us to discuss the second question raised: “Can you suggest any ways to protest some of the messages in hip hop while still enjoying it as a type of music?” Below is the question in its entirety: “I’ve been a longtime fan of hip hop. But, through the years, I’ve noticed a troubling trend of hip hop lyrics that objectify women to the point of being misogynistic. It seems like some of the songsRead More →

April 12, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 1:31 pm Warm Greetings To All of You, Regardless of your faith or what you may believe in, Easter Sunday (or what some call “Resurrection Day”) is a day of hope and redemption. The very message that God loved us so much that He would die so that I may live is still as incredible and awe inspiring as the day I first heard it as a child. The day reminds me of my own falleness and no matter how I try, I shall never be perfect. It reminds me of a being greater than me. A savior,Read More →

April 09, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 10:07 pm One Saturday morning (you pick which one), when Adi and I are sleeping in, I hear a ruckus downstairs in the great room. As I rush downstairs to see what’s going on, I hear J.C. yelling at the top of his lungs, “Get up! I was there first!” Now Adi is coming behind me as Bae screams back, “Let me go! Now!” “What is going on?” I asked (okay, technically I did ask a question. That’s not how it came across, I’m sure. To the kids, it probably sounded more like a roar). The Boy and Bae startRead More →

April 9, 2009  — P. J. Easter @ 4:59 am    Q: Dear Mr. Man: It has been several months since my husband and I have made love. He always tells me that he is tired or not in the mood. This makes me moody and frustrated. Please help. A: I have been following posts on New York City Moms and on Dad-Blogs about an episode of  The Oprah Winfrey Show that aired this week. My buddy, NYCity Mama, wrote a post about this show. The show was called, “The Truth About Motherhood”. According to Oprah, this was a “judgement-free” zone where mothers could admit theirRead More →

April 5, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 10:02 pm    Q: Dear Mr. Man: I’ve been a longtime fan of hip hop. But, through the years, I’ve noticed a troubling trend of hip hop lyrics that objectify women to the point of being misogynistic. It seems like some of the songs that are played the most on the radio (“Blame it”, “One More Drink”, and “Crank Dat” come to mind right away) encourage men to see women only as sexual objects. While you see these types of lyrics in other genres, it does seem more extreme and pronounced in hip hop. Do you thinkRead More →

April 3, 2009  — P. J. Easter @ 2:13 pm When Bae was born, I was scared. When J.C. was born, I still didn’t have the fatherhood thing down. Plain and simple. I didn’t really have any idea on how to be a father. My father, like so many others fathers in my neighborhood, wasn’t around after a certain point in my life (another story for another time). I didn’t have a role model to follow for fatherhood. So all I really knew was that I didn’t want to be like him. I knew I had to provide for them and I knew that I lovedRead More →

April 1, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 10:25 pm Q: Dear Mr. Man, I don’t think my wife finds me attractive anymore. What can I do to be sexier to her? A: Friends, if I had a sure-fire answer to that, Mr. Man would be in somewhere in the tropics, having a drink out of a coconut half-shell, and grilling anything I could catch. Alas, what I can say is that I understand that it is very easy to get bogged down with the realities of the career, parenthood, and other obligations. It is important that we never forget the glue that holds all of the piecesRead More →

March 24, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 10:41 pm Q: Dear Mr. Man, I found you at the Ultimate Blog Party. What kind of fun are you bringing to the party? A: Thanks for checking in. I think it is very cool to be one of the select few “dad-bloggers” to be invited to this party comprised of mainly mom-bloggers.  Since this is a unique kind of party, I thought my contribution would be to take it back in time to the 1970’s. Here is a list of things I love from the ’70’s: You didn’t need an excuse to call someone a “Jive Turkey”.Read More →

March 22, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 8:49 pm I was watching 60 Minutes this evening and received a very unexpected surprise. There was the facinating story of  Nathaniel Ayers, a homeless, schizophrenic, musical prodigy and Steve Lopez, a down and out reporter for the Los Angeles Times. Mr. Ayers and Mr. Lopez  do not refer to each other by their first names out of deep respect for each other, so I will proffer the same respect in this post. Although I included the trailer for the upcoming motion picture, The Soloist (starring Jamie Foxx and Robert Downey, Jr.), I am not going to discuss the movie. WhatRead More →

March 19, 2009 — P. J. Easter @ 9:15 pm Q: Dear Mr. Man, I turn forty this year and I am starting to think I’m “over the hill”.  How can I recapture my youth? A: Sorry to be the one to break it to you, but attempting to recapture your youth is akin to Bobby Brown making a successful comeback. Sure, there are things you can do to ensure that you are living a healthy lifestyle. Physically there are lots of activities that we can do to maintain our vigor.  Aside from the physical aspects, I personally prefer my life today than where I was nearly 20Read More →